Lincoln & Reagan
Generally about Reagan
Mommy says that apart from a mini tantrum pre 9am while they were trying to get ready to go to the zoo Reagan, and Lincoln, have been a joy to be with all day. Auntie Karen joined them for a trip to the zoo and it was a pleasure to spend the day together.
I was late home from work but Mommy had got both children sat eating their tea and with “a little” coaching Reagan ate ALL her tea and we all cheered and hugged her then went to play games in the living room until bathtime. We had a really great family half hour and I think Reagan got what was happening but that will only be realised if this continues….its early days but she did really well today and I’m very proud of her.
I have to say I was apprehensive to say the least, seeing as how the last time we were there I ended up calling Alan, while standing behind my car, crying my eyes out because Reagan kicked off for 40 minutes!
Today, however, was AMAZING! she was so well behaved I couldn’t believe it. I have implemented a new system with her, really breaking her day down into very small segments and rewarding for good behaviour. I’ve taken away telly as background noise and she has to earn little 15 minutes stents of ‘telly time’, or she can paint, or go walking with her scooter, or go to the park etc…she hasn’t once ever picked the telly! which I’m really grateful for. TO be honest, I LOVE having the tv off it makes the house so much quieter and more peaceful. TV sucks lol
Anyway back to the zoo. We stayed till about 3pm which is unheard of for our children as they both still nap at 2 (thank God). We had so much fun with Karen and it was so nice to share my zoo days with one of my bezzy’s that I don’t see nearly enough. Great day had by all, no screaming, no shouting, and she ate all her meals! well done baby girl!!!!
Mommy Reagan & Lincoln have taken Auntie Karen to the Zoo to show her just how much fun they all have there
It is so rare to get through a mealtime without any sort of stress just lately and tonight was no exception Reagan as always refused to eat as she does most nights but tonight I was “instructed” to ignore her. Which I did but it really gets on every one of my nerve endings when I have to sit through her whining and whinging while everybody else tries to eat their meal. Mommy gets upset because every night she creates these beautiful meals that she admits is not her favourite part of cooking, just to be told “I don’t like it” or “I don’t want it” by Reagan who hasn’t even tasted it yet. Every night its the same with very few exceptions and tonight I sat there trying to ignore her and Mommy getting abused (if that sounds too strong of an expression I’m sorry) each time she tries gently to coax Reagan to eat.
Eventually Mommy’s patience give way and she leaves the table to wash Lincoln’s Mine and her own plate leaving me sat next to a still whinging Reagan when I blew…
Shouting at her to “JUST EAT YOUR TEA I AM FED UP WITH HEARING THIS EVERY NIGHT!” as I stormed out of the kitchen.
Yes she had won she had got what she wanted she controlled me and that thought made me feel even worse as I sat trying to regain my composure in the living room. I returned and ignoring her again to pick up Lincoln so we along with Mommy could go and play in the living room while Reagan sat on her own to eat at least some of her tea. She sat in there fo 40 minutes and never touched a morsel but all the while whinging and crying trying to get us to crack, which we did not. If she asks to go for a wee we never refuse and she knows this and asked 3 times in that 40 minute period to go so each time we took her watched as she sat…and did nothing on the potty so ach time she was returned to her chair in the kitchen where she remained until bathtime when we led her upto a pre prepared bath which she got straight into and we proceeded with normal bathtime.
We are at a cross roads with her behaviour right now and we are worried we will make a mistake but something has to change because she is winning the battle with me at meal times and I know she is winning the battle with Mommy when they go out together walking. We sat tonight and discussed a plan of action which sounds good and I will elaberate on in coming blogs but for now I have to find a way to rise above it all and not “BLOW” like this evening.
I have been aware that Nemily was working on a scrapbook for her sister as I have been asked to help on occasion but having now seen the finished product it embarrasses me to even give the impression I helped in the creation of what I can only describe as a piece ART that just so happens to be about our lives. It truly is one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen and taking the following photographs could never do justice to how much thought and creative imagination there is or just how much work has gone into every single page.
Your sister has been in tears pouring over every inch of her scrapbook and is certain she has the best sister in the world (although Lincoln disagrees hehehehe) I have looked through it twice and photographed it once and I do not think I have seen half of what you have put into it. You must have spent hours and hours creating it and I just want to say you have made your sister very happy and proud today because she has been gushing to anyone who will listen about what a great sister you are…although I know she knew that before.
Today was Alan’s first day back to work in the new year BOOOO. We missed him terribly:( we did go out though and enjoyed the rain on our faces and fed the ducks, hopefully I’ll get better at the ‘self photos’ of my and the babies out in the world
After going to see the pantomime Cinderella at the Lyceum both children were exhausted and fell asleep very quickly in the car for the journey home. On the way home Reagan was talking in her sleep and saying over and over in a sleepy soft voice
“Cinderella, Cinder….ella…..Cinder……”
I only wish we had captured it on video!
This years Panto at the Lyceum Crewe was Cinderella “ooooh yes it was!” and Lincoln loved it when awake and Reagan REALLY REALLY loved it ALOT!
After spending our Christmas Day at home, for Boxing Day it was off to Nannies house for more food and drink and to meet up with Cousin Abbie Auntie Helen Uncle Andy Auntie Karen and Uncle Karl a rare thing apart from special occasions which is a shame living so close and the fact that it is always so much fun too