Generally about Mommy

Took Reagan and Lincoln to the dreaded dentist today, wasn’t sure how it was going to go as our last attempt ended in a tight lipped Reagan. We went in and mommy went first, Lincoln was so interested, rubber necking out the buggy to watch, Reagan was cowering in the corner. When I was done the dentist said who’s next and Lincoln struggled against his straps arms outstretched lol

Get Lincoln on my lap and he opened his mouth wide saying aaaahhh, dentist was very impressed:) 13.5 teeth (another one nearly out) so then it was Reagan’s turn, she reluctantly jumped on mama’s knee and opened her mouth a little, enough for him to count her ‘beautiful white teeth’

well done little ones!! try again in 6 months:)

Despite some decline in behaviour over the last few days I am perstisting on with the rewards system and not yelling. I feel like its getting worse before it gets better but most things do. Of course she’s going to dig in her heals in response to change who doesn’t?

Went to dentist, bank and supermarket today and the babies were so fed up. So after dinner we packed up and walked to the canal, at the end of the road to feed some ducks! And it was wonderful, both children walked so well and listened even better. Great little outing:)

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Reagan was such a good girl on Friday, never one tantrum, ate all her food etc…

She was allowed to choose our ‘outside the house activity’ and she choose the park. So this morning, when daddy decided to drag his cute behind out of bed at 9AM! we all got in the car and headed to Sandbach, next town over that has a WAY better park than ours:)

well done Reagan! mommy and daddy are very proud of you, keep it up!

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Mommy says that apart from a mini tantrum pre 9am while they were trying to get ready to go to the zoo Reagan, and Lincoln, have been a joy to be with all day. Auntie Karen joined them for a trip to the zoo and it was a pleasure to spend the day together.

I was late home from work but Mommy had got both children sat eating their tea and with “a little” coaching Reagan ate ALL her tea and we all cheered and hugged her then went to play games in the living room until bathtime. We had a really great family half hour and I think Reagan got what was happening but that will only be realised if this continues….its early days but she did really well today and I’m very proud of her.

I have to say I was apprehensive to say the least, seeing as how the last time we were there I ended up calling Alan, while standing behind my car, crying my eyes out because Reagan kicked off for 40 minutes!

Today, however, was AMAZING! she was so well behaved I couldn’t believe it. I have implemented a new system with her, really breaking her day down into very small segments and rewarding for good behaviour. I’ve taken away telly as background noise and she has to earn little 15 minutes stents of ‘telly time’, or she can paint, or go walking with her scooter, or go to the park etc…she hasn’t once ever picked the telly! which I’m really grateful for. TO be honest, I LOVE having the tv off it makes the house so much quieter and more peaceful. TV sucks lol

Anyway back to the zoo. We stayed till about 3pm which is unheard of for our children as they both still nap at 2 (thank God). We had so much fun with Karen and it was so nice to share my zoo days with one of my bezzy’s that I don’t see nearly enough. Great day had by all, no screaming, no shouting, and she ate all her meals! well done baby girl!!!!

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Mommy Reagan & Lincoln have taken Auntie Karen to the Zoo to show her just how much fun they all have there

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It is so rare to get through a mealtime without any sort of stress just lately and tonight was no exception Reagan as always refused to eat as she does most nights but tonight I was “instructed” to ignore her. Which I did but it really gets on every one of my nerve endings when I have to sit through her whining and whinging while everybody else tries to eat their meal. Mommy gets upset because every night she creates these beautiful meals that she admits is not her favourite part of cooking, just to be told “I don’t like it” or “I don’t want it” by Reagan who hasn’t even tasted it yet. Every night its the same with very few exceptions and tonight I sat there trying to ignore her and Mommy getting abused (if that sounds too strong of an expression I’m sorry) each time she tries gently to coax Reagan to eat.

Eventually Mommy’s patience give way and she leaves the table to wash Lincoln’s Mine and her own plate leaving me sat next to a still whinging Reagan when I blew…

Shouting at her to “JUST EAT YOUR TEA I AM FED UP WITH HEARING THIS EVERY NIGHT!” as I stormed out of the kitchen.

Yes she had won she had got what she wanted she controlled me and that thought made me feel even worse as I sat trying to regain my composure in the living room. I returned and ignoring her again to pick up Lincoln so we along with Mommy could go and play in the living room while Reagan sat on her own to eat at least some of her tea. She sat in there fo 40 minutes and never touched a morsel but all the while whinging and crying trying to get us to crack, which we did not. If she asks to go for a wee we never refuse and she knows this and asked 3 times in that 40 minute period to go so each time we took her watched as she sat…and did nothing on the potty so ach time she was returned to her chair in the kitchen where she remained until bathtime when we led her upto a pre prepared bath which she got straight into and we proceeded with normal bathtime.

We are at a cross roads with her behaviour right now and we are worried we will make a mistake but something has to change because she is winning the battle with me at meal times and I know she is winning the battle with Mommy when they go out together walking. We sat tonight and discussed a plan of action which sounds good and I will elaberate on in coming blogs but for now I have to find a way to rise above it all and not “BLOW” like this evening.

I have been aware that Nemily was working on a scrapbook for her sister as I have been asked to help on occasion but having now seen the finished product it embarrasses me to even give the impression I helped in the creation of what I can only describe as a piece ART that just so happens to be about our lives. It truly is one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen and taking the following photographs could never do justice to how much thought and creative imagination there is or just how much work has gone into every single page.

Your sister has been in tears pouring over every inch of her scrapbook and is certain she has the best sister in the world (although Lincoln disagrees hehehehe) I have looked through it twice and photographed it once and I do not think I have seen half of what you have put into it. You must have spent hours and hours creating it and I just want to say you have made your sister very happy and proud today because she has been gushing to anyone who will listen about what a great sister you are…although I know she knew that before.

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Today was Alan’s first day back to work in the new year BOOOO. We missed him terribly:( we did go out though and enjoyed the rain on our faces and fed the ducks, hopefully I’ll get better at the ‘self photos’ of my and the babies out in the world

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Right, I will start off by saying I despise new year’s resolutions. Lord knows I’ve made enough decisions during my time on this earth, that have resulted in disappointment and guilt. I do however completely promote growth and progression and am all for something that makes my time alive more substantial and meaningful. I just read an article that got me thinking, it was written by Michael Moore, someone I’m generally not a huge fan of, but this time he really got me thinking. It was about taking a walk. Sounds ridiculous right? Well he spoke about taking a walk half hour a day to promote a healthy mind and in return he was surprised with a healthy body. Now I will say I do not give two hoots about dieting and loosing weight, I think anything that gives me even a few extra minutes alive with my family is 100% worth the effort, but I will not weigh my food and count calories and kill myself to be something somebody else thinks I should be, life is too short. Anyway, while thinking about this walk, I also started to think that 2013 is the last year I will have both my babies all to myself as Reagan starts school next year:(

Everywhere we go, I notice the couples staring at us, with love and memories of their own flickering behind their eyes, the women that come up to me when I’m with my children and say, ‘please enjoy the time you have, don’t take it for granted, it’s so fleeting and they will be grown before you know it.’ You know what? I want to be the mother that can look back on the lives of my children and know that I was lucky enough to do just that. I am so lucky to have a husband that see’s the importance of a mother’s time with their babies and because he works so hard, and because of a little luck I get to be with my children all day everyday. So I’m going to put both of these ideas together and walk with my babies everyday, not walk to arrive somewhere, just walk to be together, to feel the elements on my face and to appreciate all that beauty that God has given us to enjoy. I realise that sometimes I’ll be busy, sometimes I won’t be bothered but I hope that these feelings are fleeting and I can be remind myself of the feeling I have right now. Enjoy my life and slow it down a bit:)

Yesterday was my first walk, with Alan and the children. Didn’t do much just strolled the canals, talking playing I spy and it was lovely:)
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